Happy New Year!

It’s that time of year when we can either look back on the year that was  or look forward on the year to come. Looking forward the big events I’m looking forward to are: our wedding, an additional form of pain management, making this Blog look more “professional,” keeping my medical conditions under control, taking a honeymoon cruise with Jeff, always enjoying the love of my life Jeff, selling our previous home and, making some improvements to our home. That should keep me/us busy. I’m sure we’ll add or delete things but the bottom line is that I LOVE JEFF! There will never be a way to say how much I appreciate all that he was, is, and will be. Jeff is the rock that keeps me alive and going.

Wedding Bells

Jeff and I will be celebrating our 25th Anniversary together on May 28th. We’ve decided to move the wedding-up a little so that some of our “Winter Visitor” friends can attend. We’re going to try and fit the dates in so our good friends Judge Brenda and her fabulous husband George can Marry and be part of the Wedding with us. Charlie (our spoiled Bassett Hound) will be working with a trainer so he can be our ring bearer. We have the possibility of a caterer. So much more to go. I’ll keep you updated here.

Today is a plus day. For finally making the announcement and Jeff getting me a new shower head. No longer do I feel like I’m being injected with one thousand needles; now it’s a nice soft shower and I have the pressure when I need it.

Your Humble groom – Howard


It’s getting close to Christmas and New Years’ Day. My mood is down in the dumps. It seems that because we declined a dinner invitation to a family dinner that we’ve been excised from the family. My twin nephews deeply hurt their Mother and their Grandmother. All kind of negative statements were made about how deeply the family was hurt and that the family never wanted to see the twins again.

Lo and behold the twins showed-up just in time for the holidays. When we refused the dinner invitation because we held to our beliefs we were summarily removed from the whole family. So, Christmas will not be with family and they will have tried to make it an unhappy New Year.p

I’m terminally ill and will be going on Hospice in 2018. I wish my former family a Merry Christmas and a Happy New Year.

Brrrrr – In Phoenix

It feels like Winter out today. The temperature is below 60º and we’ve turned the heat on for the first time. I’m lazing around in layers and Charlie is laying near the the heat register.

The cold temperature sets off every nerve ending I have and it feels like pain. I haven’t posted in a bit because I’m having terrible pain attacks. l spent one whole day sleeping just to avoid the pain.

As for my family; at least they’ve had the decency to stay away. Yes, I miss my Mother but she too was a participant in the group that said, “under no circumstances could she ever forgive my nephews” and then turned around and couldn’t wait to be with them. If you have a principle or moral what reaction should you expect when you violate it?

On the good news side, Charlie has a group of friends that he loves to play with. It’s a site to see other dogs try to flip him when he’s 55 lbs and low to the ground. He’s also taken to sticking his whole head in a container of water and blowing bubbles.


I’m having a massive Pancreatitis attack today probably due to the stress from my family. This all happened because we refused a dinner invitation. My doctor gave me another pill and I’m fine now. We’re headed out to dinner with a group of friends. It should be fun.

We were thinking about getting a golf cart to make it easier for me to get around but now we have to payoff a phone that we asked to be returned. The golf cart will probably have to wait a couple of months – no biggie